There are no flaws, only profiles

psychologist, therapist, counselor, coach, lecturer, author of method, school and book “Zen-Psychology”

Andrey Yagodzinsky
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psychologist, therapist, counselor, coach, lecturer, author of method, school and book “Zen-Psychology”
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For example, you are too lazy to do something.

This means that you are simply not interested and do not need it, so the body protects itself from wasting its time and energy on the thing you don’t want. This thing is just superfluous, do something different or learn exactly why you need it to stat actually wanting it.

Or you easily get angry for no apparent reason. That’s because you have your emotional tank brimming with something you didn’t let out on time. The restraint is superfluous here, as well as doing something that infuriates you.

To someone an orator seems to be too talkative. A programmer, on the contrary, is too much in themselves, an actor shows off a lot, and a teacher teaches everyone in a row. A person lacks tact or, conversely, directness. This is happening because the perceiver imagines how "it should be," and then expects things to go his or her way instead of seeing people the way they are and leaving them alone if not happy.

More often than not, "flaws" are hung on us by the educational system consisting of parents, teachers and coaches. We grow up and live like we’re insufficient, too modest and self-critical with cosmetically painted merits on top of those coffins. We are afraid to recognize ourselves, to try something new, to be ourselves. We're not good enough. Not ready yet. “We have flaws, you know”. We wait for something, but usually do not expect anything.

Rewrite everything in a new way. And live with it for a while. It will soon become clear that if you work through the fear of ridicule, the embarrassment will go away. Engage yourself in an interesting project and your enthusiasm will carry you to the wave of success. Find out the real structure of life and calm your inner beast, let go of all your grievances and prohibitions with a therapist and you don’t need drinking anymore. And if you actually do lack something, it’s pretty easy nowadays to learn whatever you want with a couple of mouse clicks.

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